2013년 5월 1일 수요일

Teeth-mark Scars


Hello, everyone. Today, I want to tell you about my trauma. It all happened when I was just 9 years old. As you guys all know, when we are young, girls are stronger than boys. So, some girls including me are called '조폭 마누라'. 조폭 마누라 was a name of the movie, but it was used to call girls who have strong power and eloquence.
Anyway, as usual, I was playing with a boy who sat next to me. He teased me, so I pinched the back of his hand. I really liked to pinch people, since I was a 조폭 마누라. "I will tell to my mommy!", he said. But of course, I didn't get scared because it was the normal reaction of the boy kids.
The next day, when I arrived at school, suddenly one woman and a boy turned up behind the school door. The woman was wearing a hat which blocked me from seeing her face. The boy pointed at me, and shouted; "Mommy, there she is!"
It was the beginning of the trauma. She came closer to me and stood just behind me. She grabbed my neck strongly with her long, sharp fingernails. Her fingernails started to embed in my neck. She forced me to walk. I was so frightened, but I couldn't say even a word.
While we walked, she talked to me continuously. "You should be nice to him. You are good girl." Her voice was so soft, that I got goose bumps. I bet she could have been a talented actress. She held my neck until we arrive at the classroom. Thanks to her nice performance, nobody noticed us."So, will you be a good friend with my boy?" She asked. I nodded fast. "I'm sorry, I'm really sorry." Then, she finally let me free.
After school, a teacher scolded me. The boy's mother called the teacher. The teacher said, "Why did you harass him so much? I can't understand! You must be sorry to him." I thought I did very bad things, because his mother and the teacher told me like that. I couldn't talk about the morning accident to the teacher since I thought it was the reasonable action to my fault.
My mom was waiting for me in the school park. My mom wanted to tie my hair so I turned back. Suddenly she yelled. "Oh my god!!!!! What is this!!!!!!!!" I didn't know why she yelled. "What happened to your neck!!" She took a picture of my neck. They looked like teeth-marks. The boy's mom made them in my neck. Her fingernails made deep, and terrible scars.
I can't remember exactly what happened next. My mother visited the teacher, and the teacher scolded me again. "Why didn't you tell me?" I had to go to hospital because of those scars. Next day I heard that she was not his mother, but actually his aunt. The scars remained until I became a fifth grader, and I can't forget the boy's face until now. Since then, I always try not to hurt somebody's feeling, because there are so many different kinds of people and weirdo. My small action can be accepted to some people as huge action.   

2013년 4월 30일 화요일

Is dating beneficial for teenagers?


Since there is dating policy in KMLA, and teenagers have a lot of attention to their boy/girlfriend, most of students might have thought about this topic;
Is dating beneficial to teenagers?


There are some positive effects:
1. Role as a “path”
* Study, relationship, etc : can role as a path in various ways

* Healing by confessing each others’ troubles/Can reduce stress by telling about their worries which we can’t tell parents and friends/Can earn mental enjoyment

* Feel good when I’m with her/him. Secrete adrenaline by spending time with her/him.

> Example ) My friend A have changed since she got a boy friend. Before she knew about him, she couldn’t understand boys’ behaviors and thoughts. However, now, she can get along all kind of friends. 
 

2. Synergy Effect
* Can 
supplement each others’ drawbacks : Mutual supplementary

* Can develop by piecing together, such as personality : Can gain experiences which I can’t get from same sex friends.

* Study : Tutoring each other –The most ideal effect of relationship between boys and girls

* Character : Change flaws into advantages. 
 
3. Teenagers’ own pureness
* Not weighing each other with their backgrounds (Fall in love with pure feelings)
* Don’t consider each other as a purpose / Can make an accurate value of sex during teenagers.
* Mental supporting / Can heal, feel comfort by just being with her, him
* Raise possibility to have proper relationships with other people after became adults 
* Huge advantages to their mentality

 
There are also some negative effects:

1. It can affect teenagers' school scores negatively.

* They can waste their time to contact their boy/girlfriend. KaKaoTalk, Messages, or phone calls... 
* They can't concentrate on their studying.

* They may spend more time to their appearance. They want to look pretty or handsome to their boy/girlfriend.

* They can use their time to dating, not studying.

 
2. They can do excessive physical affection.

* They don't know much about the opposite sex, so they can be curious about it.

* They can't control themselves well, since they are still immature.

* Excessive physical affection can cause some big problem which teenagers cannot handle.


3. They can have wrong perspective of sex.

* Since they are not grown-ups, some of teenagers can't recognize the right way to treat their boy/girlfriend.
* Some teens can treat or be treated badly by their boy/or girlfriend.

* Some of them who experienced those situations can have a wrong perspective when they are teens.

* It can last after they grow up.
 
So regarding these points, and with new creature other details from experience of all of you, we want to lead a discussion about whether or not dating is beneficial or appropriate for teenagers.

What do you think?